When It’s Time to Leave a Relationship

November 9, 2012 by  
Filed under Relationships

You’ve given it your all. You’ve even tried counselling. You’re considering leaving the relationship and even though things still aren’t working right, you’re not sure if leaving the relationship is the best thing to do. We talk about when to leave a relationship in this article so you can decide for yourself if leaving the relationship you are in is right for you.

Talking with your partner about your hopes and fears concerning your relationship can help you establish where you stand. Knowing how they really feel about you and what they want can show you if you have similar aims, or whether you are on different tracks. If you both want the same all well and good, but if one of you wants to make things work and the other doesn’t it may be best to let go. Staying in a relationship without love, and which is tense, isn’t healthy.

If you’re not satisfied in the relationship, it’s likely that your partner isn’t either. (Hopefully, before you decide to break up, you would have discussed this with your partner; the reasons for the end of a relationship should never come as a surprise to either person in it.) If so, then you’re not doing either of you any favours by holding on, extending the dull pain of dissatisfaction just to prevent some sharp short-term pain.

It is all too easy to be lulled into a false sense of comfort and security by an OK relationship, and it is certainly easy to procrastinate ending it by rationalizing staying or putting off what you don’t want to admit is inevitable. But if you believe you could be happier with someone else, then you owe it to yourself—and to your partner—to consider ending the relationship (especially before you do something more hurtful, such as cheat).

How do we know when it’s time to move on? It’s when we find the courage to be honest with ourselves and acknowledge that staying will do more harm than good.

We’re the only ones who can admit this to ourselves. And we’re the only ones who can change our lives for the better by finding the strength to walk away.


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